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Ending the Cycle...

The Story of Two Loved Ones Who Didn’t Have the Benefit of Advance Directives in Their Times of Need...

Jacqueline Janssen
"Marilyn Geary and I, like most boomers, have suffered losses. When commiserating with each other at dinner at Café Gratitude in Marin County, we came up with the idea to help other boomers finish their plans.

Marilyn’s story…
Marilyn lost her husband to emphysema, and though he used an oxygen tank, they were both in denial. Their son was fourteen when it became clear her husband was dying. She did not know if he wanted to be buried or cremated. She kept him on life support until she could drive to several cemeteries to select one she thought he might prefer.

My story…
My siblings and I lost both parents when they were young adults. The siblings embraced different religions and fought over funeral directions. My father ended up with a traditional ceremony, though I maintain he would have wanted jazz, bourbon and Zen poetry. Over that and asset distribution without wills, it took the siblings, who had been close, years to reconcile.

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